THE COMPLETE WOMAN FELLOWSHIP
Breaking Soul Ties Through Forgiveness

SOUL TIES
What Is A Soul Tie?
A soul tie is the knitting together of two souls that can either bring tremendous blessings in a Godly relationship or tremendous destruction when made with the wrong persons.
The bible describes a soul tie also as knitting and cleaving which means to bring together. Follow close after, be attached to someone or adhere to one another as with glue. Joined together.
Although we can’t find the word soul tie in the bible we can find Knitting and Cleaving in its context.

Definitions
 The Strong Concordance
Abhor-strong word meaning regard with extreme repugnance. To reject & hate
Conformed- by association denoting union with or together
Cleave- To cling or adhere
Forgiveness-Forgiveness is the mental, emotional and/or spiritual process of ceasing to feel resentment, indignation or anger against another person for a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution

MEDITATION
Mark 11:25-26
And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.
But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.
The Rules of Forgiveness
Be cautious of those you associate with.
Look out for one another
Does the person feel sorry for what they have done? Not a condition for forgiveness but a consideration.
Have they apologized?
Forgive relentlessly
Relinquish resentment

Luke 17:3-4
      Pay attention and always be on your guard. If your brother sins, solemnly tell him so and reprove him, and if he repents, forgive him.

    And even if he sins against you seven times in a day, and turns to you seven times and says, I repent (I’m Sorry), you must forgive him.

 
Physical Manifestations of Un-forgiveness
Mustering up genuine compassion for those who have wronged us, instead of allowing anger toward them to eat away at us is not always easy but forgiveness is the course of action recommended by most psychologists. To heal many conditions mental and physical.
Psycho neuro immunology
 -negative endocrine and immune functions
 -early death
 -Research carried out over the past decade has produced new insights about how our bodies process stress. Epidemiological studies have shown an association between stress and illness, and scientists in the emerging field of psychoneuroimmunology (a newly emerging field of science that explores the complex relationships that exist between the mind (psyche), the brain and neuroendocrine system (neuro) and our body's cellular and biochemical response to foreign invasion, abnormal cell development and autoimmune disease (immunology).

A Scientific Study
Performed in 2011 at Duke University
Interpersonal offenses frequently mar relationships.
(35 females, 36 males)
This study examined the immediate emotional and physiological effects that occurred when participants rehearsed hurtful memories and nursed grudges (i.e., were unforgiving) compared with when they cultivated empathic perspective taking and imagined granting forgiveness (i.e., were forgiving) toward real-life offenders.
Unforgiving thoughts prompted more aversive emotion, and significantly higher corrugator (brow) electromyogram (EMG), skin conductance, heart rate, and blood pressure changes from baseline.
The EMG, skin conductance, and heart rate effects persisted after imagery into the recovery periods.
 Forgiving thoughts prompted greater perceived control and comparatively lower physiological stress responses. The results dovetail with the psychophysiology literature and suggest possible mechanisms through which chronic unforgiving responses may erode health whereas forgiving responses may enhance it.
Remember How the Mind is Affected by Soul Ties
Thoughts – Acts as a trigger
Memories- react to triggers
Ideas- Deceived & manipulated
Perceptions- How we view others
Emotions- compromised / causes faulty actions
Knowledge- Ignorance
Wisdom- Given from the Father
If you are consistently un-forgiving (letting go) and choosing to remember or Reconnect to these events keep us bound, unhealthy, and left with a cluttered soul.
Revelation


Matthew 6:14-15 AMP
  For if you forgive people their trespasses, their reckless and willful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment, your heavenly father will also forgive you.
But if you do not forgive others their trespasses, leaving them, letting them go , and giving up resentment, neither will your father forgive you your trespasses.

Reflection
Forgiveness recognizes what you thought your brother did to you has not occurred. It does not pardon sins and make them real. It sees there was no sin. And in this view are all your sins forgiven. What is sin except a false idea about God’s Son? Forgiveness merely sees its falsity, and therefore lets it go. What then is free to take its place is the Will of God.
An unforgiving thought is one which makes a judgment that it will not raise to doubt, although it is not true. The mind is closed, and will not be released. The thought protects projection, tightening its chains, so that distortions are more veiled and more obscure; less easily accessible to doubt, and further kept from reason. What can come between a fixed projection and the aim that it has chosen as its needed goal?
An unforgiving thought does many things. In frantic action it pursues its goal, twisting and overturning what it sees as interfering with its chosen path. Distortion is its purpose and the means by which it would accomplish it as well. It sets about its furious attempts to smash reality, without concern for anything that would appear to pose a contradiction to its point of view.
Forgiveness, on the other hand, is still, and quietly does nothing. It offends no aspect of reality, nor seeks to twist it to appearance that it likes. It merely looks and waits and judges not. He who would not forgive must judge, for he must justify his failure to forgive. But he who would forgive himself must learn to welcome truth exactly as it is.
Do nothing, then, and let forgiveness show you what to do through Him Who is your Guide, your Savior and Defender, strong in hope, and certain of your ultimate success. He has forgiven you already, for such is His function, given Him by God. Now must you share His function, and forgive whom He has saved, whose sin-lessness He sees, and whom He honors as the Son of God.
Remember To break Soul Ties
Confront the ugly things in your life
Purge your memories
Seek Gods Divine assistance
We are reborn by the renewing of our minds

Self Work
To be in pain becomes a habit.
Ask yourself how is this pain serving you?
Invite the Anger Forward
Drop hands to your side
Close your eyes
Disconnect your brain and bring the hurt back.
Once you have been honest with what you are holding on to cast your cares on God.
1 Peter 5: 7-9
 Casting the whole of your care all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all on him, for he cares for you affectionately, and cares about you watchfully.
Be well balanced (temperate sober of mind), be vigilant and cautious at times; for that enemy of yours, the devil roams around like a lion roaring, seeking who he may devour.
Withstand him. Be firm in faith , knowing that the same sufferings are appointed to your brother thought out  the world.

Prayer To Help Forgive
  “Heavenly Father, you are holy and righteous.  You are perfect in justice.  we confess that we have not forgiven as you have commanded us to.   Through Jesus Christ,  I confess my pride and judgment of these people.  Please forgive us Lord and cleanse us from our sin.  Please help us to thoroughly entrust these people and the wrongs they caused us into your hands.  I pray that your will be done in our lives and in their lives.  Please help us to no longer think on those wrongs , but instead to focus our thoughts on you.  I invite you, Lord, into any painful memories we have concerning what was done.  Please heal any wounds we received and help us to have your perspective on what happened.  Father I ask that you remove all false burdens placed on us by people, leader or churches in the name of Jesus. Remove all heavy burdens placed on our lives by the enemy in the name of Jesus. Father let your anointing break the enemy’s burden from off our necks and let every yoke be destroyed . Father remove every burden. We cast our cares upon you God. Thank you, Father!   In the name of Jesus Christ I pray, Amen.”
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